The 5-minutes Argument Solving Technique

Posted by DrVolcanoe on June 15th, 2009 filed in Prescription

A good friend of mine used to say, “Nobody wins in an argument…”

True, isn’t it? Both parties usually end up feeling bitter & resentful at the end of an argument. Of course time heals…but do we have to wait for TIME to pass. Till our hairs grey even?

Or just bury those negative feelings and get on as if nothing happened? Sure…we can do that, but only till the same issue or another issue arises!

Here’s something I came across on the net…

The next time you fight, set the clock for five minutes. One of you gets to speak while the other stays completely silent and listens intently, trying as much as possible not to react emotionally to what’s being said.

When the five minutes is up, the listener repeats back what they think they’ve just been told. This ensures you actually do listen, rather than spend the time planning what you’re going to say when it’s your turn!

Repeating it back also ensures you really have understood what they were trying to say, rather than what you think you heard. Repeat until the first person feels truly understood, then the other gets their turn.

How’s that?

TRY and let me know the Effectiveness!

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The ‘holiday’ that never was

Posted by DrVolcanoe on June 8th, 2009 filed in in-d-doc

Should have been driving now…on my way back to CTA1, ‘d city of clouds, according to original plans. Pseudoholidays (god bless all the kursuses which gives us occasional respites, being in District) + Friday off (after 4months…finally to finish up the last day of my last year’s carry forward leave ahh *smilez*).

We found the course to be a bit ridiculous (18 hours on breastfeeding, 3days & 2 nights!?!?!?) It was a real joke among us…imagine my colleague in charge of roaster actually typed Dr Lavanya breastfeeding *grrr* while all else was just as usual, so-and-so kursus. Haha…

There are other colleagues who would NEED the course more for more than work purposes. But being in-charge of maternity I was selected for it by boss, & they who need it more declined to switch :p

BUT…

The course was cancelled.

Disappointed on missing out on the beachside pseudo-holidays…sigh.

That’s why my sudden trip to Sitiawan last weekend. ONE month since I last went home…

So there goes…my planned Friday off was to chill at home since I’ll already be home. Once again, my planned day off tak jadi…once too often dee. Either me cancelling planned day off, or just end up not submitting the form. Since only one person can take off at a time, unless under special circumstances.

But then again, since lil’ bro won’t be home yet, I’d rather go back next weekend…ahh, there’s my silver lining. Provided I’m able to switch calls to this weekend…

Now all I want is to be able to take leave for my Taman Negara Trip next month…even that had to be rescheduled to avoid clashing with a kursus one of my colleagues will be attending.

Why me so suey wanna take leave oso susah…I DON’T fancy taking day off & rotting at home..wanna optimise it by taking leave for good reasons/times.

I still have 31days left…should have just opted for Golden Handshake if knew like this.

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